Online sessions now available.Kristian S. Nibe - clinical psychologist and ISTDP practitioner.
What causes burnout syndrome.
The causes for burned out syndrome are of intrapsychological character, meaning that they come from psychological processes inside ourselves (and not from external factors such as; work, coworkers, deadlines, demanding spouses, etc.).
Burnout is caused by 1) how we relate to our own feelings, 2) the anxiety, tension, and stress in the body and how effectively we regulate it, and lastly 3) the kinds of attitudes, assumption, thoughts, behavioral patterns, and defense mechanisms we have and how constructive or dysfunctional they are.
It may seem that we burn out and lose our energy from work, others expectations, deadlines, manipulating or difficult bosses, coworkers, customers, spouses, family members, neighbors, friends, and children, but these people are only triggers to feelings inside us. Burned out syndrome is primarily caused by how we handle our feelings towards these people when we encounter them.
External factors may be a trigger to our feelings, but the cause of stress and burnout arises from how we deal with the feelings that these external factors trigger.
One doesn’t have to work in a big corporation to become burned out, if is of course possible to become burned out as a stay at home parent, independent freelancer, retiree, or student. In any life situation a person can expend more energy than he produces, and when this occurs over time, burnout syndrome may be on the horizon.
External triggers to burnout syndrome.
* Conflict with others.
* Taking on too much responsibility or too many daily tasks.
* Monotonous work.
* Work without meaning.
* Changes in work assignments, restructuring at work, promotions or demotions.
* Unreasonable demands or expectations, both from others and oneself.
* Bullying, harassment, insults, and lack of respect.
* Secretive, manipulative, or other psychological games.
* Being kept out of the information loop, being delegated pointless tasks, and being excluded from decision making processes.
* Uncertainty or unpredictability as a consequence of lack of leadership or feedback.
* Incongruence between ones own values and the company/family values.
* Lack of love and support from others.
* A life style removed from what is the natural life style of human beings. This includes a lack of healthy nutrition, clean air, sunlight, lack of movement or exercise, and exposure to toxins or pollution, etc.
Inner causes of burnout syndrome.
The experience of the above mentioned triggers will create feelings towards others. This might be feelings such as frustration, irritation, anger, sadness, grief, guilt, and disgust. These feelings may again trigger the unconscious anxiety mechanism that covers up our feelings with anxiety.
Over time the body will wear out by harboring locked up frustration, anger, sadness, guilt, and anxiety. This mechanism of keeping feelings hidden and locked up results in energy reduction until the point of fatigue and burnout.
Human beings need to feel that what we do is meaningful and appreciated. Lack of a meaningful work environment or lack of gratitude from others we are trying to serve often results in frustration and stress and may lead resignation and indifference.
In work places or in family situations where decisions are made without ones involvement and others treat one with lack of respect and integrity, one may develop what is referred to as learned helplessness. This is a state where one draws the conclusion that no matter what one does and what contribution one is making is of no significance or importance. Then it is easy to give up completely and lose all energy.
It is possible to end this vicious cycle. Send me a message through the contact form below if you want help to get your energy and life force back on track again.
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Consultations are available for either 45 minutes or 90 minutes, and are conducted by video either through Skype or appear.in. Alternatively I also offer sessions through chat/e-mail.
The price per 45 minute consultation is 160 Euro. The price for a 90 minute consultation is 300 Euro.