Online sessions now available.Kristian S. Nibe - clinical psychologist and ISTDP practitioner.
Symptoms of burnout syndrome.
A person doesn’t become burned out overnight. Rather the symptoms evolve gradually over time. In the beginning the resistance towards work increases gradually and one feels tired quicker than usual.
One starts worrying about going to work in the morning and feels tired and exhausted while at work. The sense of control over ones life situation begins to slip, while one thinks that it is impossible to change the situation. The sense of losing control and that everything feels hectic and chaotic increases gradually.
After work, when returning home to family and kids, the lack of energy and the tired feeling remains. All joy and enthusiasm are gone, and the physical exhaustion leads to a reduced social life and engagement with constructive interests. More and more time is spent in front of the TV (often with a beer of four) and the desire to activate oneself is dramatically less than it used to be.
At the workplace, conflicts with colleagues, superiors, customers or clients may have developed. There is less patience and greater irritation when dealing with other people, including with family and friends.
Communication and conflict.
Many burned out people struggle to communicate their irritation and disagreements with others in a constructive way and they keep their feelings bottled up inside instead. This only worsens the burnout symptoms.
Most burnouts try to shy away from conflict, and they want to avoid that other people get angry, upset, or disappointed of them. This dysfunctional behavioral pattern is based on the assumption that they somehow are able to control other peoples actions, rather than accepting that other people themselves are responsible for their own reactions and behaviors.
Burnouts are highly conscientious people that don’t want to disappoint anyone, another example of them taking responsibility that is not theirs, and that leads to taking on more and more responsibility than there is time to accomplish in the 24 hours they have available every day.
They avoid telling others what they want and what their opinion is, because they worry that their opinion or desire might offend someone. A common character trait is that they struggle to be firm and say “No!” to others and thereby set healthy boundaries for themselves. They struggle to make their own priorities for the daily 24 hours since they often agree to others requests that then fill up their day rather than making their own priorities based on healthy self-interest.
All this leads them to struggle to create a healthy balance in their life. Apathy and lack of initiative develops, results and effectiveness decreases, and it takes longer time to get started on work activities.
Some take time off from work or call in sick because they have “hit the wall”, but a period off from work often doesn’t increase their energy level and motivation because the underlying causes to the body’s stress and low energy are not being addressed. Many of the symptoms of anxiety and depression also starts to manifest.
Physical and mental symptoms.
Common physical symptoms of burnout syndrome are tiredness and exhaustion which is not alleviated by a period of sleep or rest, anxiety, tension around the neck, chest and lower back pain, headache, weight changes, stomach and digestion problems, changes in appetite, nausea, dizziness, and sleep disturbances. One also become more often sick with colds and fever.
Mental symptoms of burnout syndrome manifests as mood swings, depression, irritability, acting out, spiritual emptiness, lack of concentration, lack of memory, lack of meaning and cynicism, social isolation, social anxiety, stubbornness, emotional outbursts, phobias, stubbornness, suspiciousness, and self-critical thoughts regarding ones own lack of worth and competence.
Ones ability to contribute both at work and at home is significantly reduced. Bitterness and frustration regarding the lack of appreciation from others for the time and effort one has put in is common. Many also starts to self-medicate with food, alcohol, prescription drugs, or illegal drugs in order to feel better and get through the day.
Online consultations available.
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Consultations are available for either 45 minutes or 90 minutes, and are conducted by video either through Skype or appear.in. Alternatively I also offer sessions through chat/e-mail.
The price per 45 minute consultation is 160 Euro. The price for a 90 minute consultation is 300 Euro.