Online sessions now available.Kristian S. Nibe - clinical psychologist and ISTDP practitioner.
Anxiety = unconscious fear of feelings.
Most people don’t know what anxiety is. They believe that anxiety signals that they are afraid or that they are in physical danger. However, anxiety means neither fear nor physical danger. Anxiety is simply the body tensing due to unconscious feelings.
Inside the brain there is a mechanism that cover painful or forbidden feelings with muscle tension (i.e. anxiety) just a few milliseconds after that feeling has been activated in the brain. This anxiety mechanism is triggered in order to prevent “painful” feelings to be experienced consciously. Hence, a person with a psyche that has labeled some feelings as too painful to be experienced will feel anxiety, tension and nervousness rather than feel the hidden and underlying feelings such as anger, sadness, joy, or guilt.
Fear and anxiety are different entities.
It is normal to be afraid when in actual physical danger or when faced with external threats to survival. Fear is the body’s natural reaction to danger that threatens survival. A physical threat causes the body to react with a fight-or-flight response in order to maintain physical safety.
Fear can therefore be understood as an automatic alarm that activates the body when we are physically threatened. Even though it feels uncomfortable to be afraid, this alarm function activates the body in order to prepare us to react quickly. Fear helps us stay awake, focused and vigilant, and makes us able to recognize danger without having to spend valuable time trying to evaluate whether we are in danger or not.
Anxiety tries to prevent painful feelings from being experienced consciously.
Anxiety feels a lot similar as fear, but the difference is that anxiety is caused by feelings in the body that a part of the brain tries to keep out of conscious awareness.
Anxiety is a protective mechanism that the unconscious brain triggers to prevent feelings one once learned was overwhelming or frightening to become conscious. You can learn about this mechanism and how to overcome it here.
Most common signs of anxiety.
It is likely that you suffer from anxiety if some of these symptoms are present:
- You are constantly tense, worried, or feel that you are “living on the edge”.
- If anxiety/stress/nervousness disrupts your ability to work, study, or accomplish daily tasks.
- You experience fear that you know is irrational but which you are unable to let go of.
- You believe that something dangerous or catastrophic will occur if things are not done in a special way.
- If you avoid everyday normal situations or activities because of anxiety.
- Experience sudden and unpredictable anxiety attacks or panic attacks.
- Think that danger or catastrophe may occur at any time.
- Have developed obsessive-compulsive thoughts or behavioral patterns that have become part of your daily routine.
- Have developed phobias.
- You suffer from restlessness and have difficulty sleeping.
- You struggle to think clearly because of constant thinkingness.
- You have inexplicable physical symptoms or pain that have no medical explanation.
- You are excessively shy, withdrawn or tense in social settings.
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Consultations are available for either 45 minutes or 90 minutes, and are conducted by video either through Skype or appear.in. Alternatively I also offer sessions through chat/e-mail.
The price per 45 minute consultation is 160 Euro. The price for a 90 minute consultation is 300 Euro.